Almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce. But 100% of marriages have difficulties. Many people think it is simply a coin-toss on whether a marriage succeeds or fails. They are wrong. You CAN make the difference!

Success or failure is in your hands

In October and November, we hosted the Online Marriage Workshop. There are no plans to repeat the event. But I had many requests to attend, but we couldn’t handle any more participants. And I have had many, many requests for the transforming information from the workshop.

We have decided to offer all the information included in the workshop for those who were unable to attend, and at a fraction of the cost for those who could not afford to attend.

Marriage can be tough! Two people, joined together, but sometimes feeling like enemies. Sometimes, couples find themselves continually hurting each other, miss each other’s needs, and leave each other angry, resentful, tired, empty, exhausted, and unfulfilled.

Study after study is showing the damaging effects of stress. And nowhere is there more stress than in an unhappy marriage! We stand in front of family and friends and make a promise to stay together. Some people decide to break that promise. Others struggle through.

In the end, there are really three options: 1.) Leaving things as they are, suffering through (continued unhappiness). 2.) Give up and move on (separation and divorce). Or 3.) Discover the secret of transforming your relationship! Neither 1.) nor 2.) are good options.

Instead, the only real option is 3.), transforming your marriage! But without the proper tools and understandings, transforming your marriage is difficult. How many times have you tried to make things different? How many books have you read, discussions have you had, thoughts and prayers you’ve entertained, all aimed at changing the relationship?

“So, What Can I Do?”

A marriage can be restored, developed, nurtured, and transformed! I tell you that as someone who sees the “miracles” on a daily basis. Note that I put miracles in quotations. Miracles are thought to come out of the blue. But in the cases I see, it is because one, the other, or both decide to do something about it. In other words, the miracle happens because action is taken.

There is a myth that it takes hard work to transform a marriage. I don’t believe that. It takes effort. It takes a change in thinking and perspective. It takes a willingness to try something new. Mostly, it takes a belief that things can change. It doesn’t take an overwhelming belief. Just some small part that says “Things have to change. Things can change. I will participate in it.”

That is the opportunity you have, right now. It is an opportunity you have to be transformational in your life, in your marriage.

Here’s a little story about me: I have always, for as long as I remember, wanted to Scuba dive. For a long time, it was not practical. In college, I couldn’t afford it. Then came graduate school (still couldn’t afford it, and didn’t have any time if I could have). Then I was a father, and no time.

Years passed, and I still wanted to do it, but never took the time or chance. Then, several years back, I had a potentially life-threatening illness. Let me tell you. . . that will change your perspective! I started doing things I had long wanted to do, but hadn’t.

Then, my wife encouraged me to get certified for diving. I came up with every excuse: “not enough time,” “not enough money,” “too many other things to do.” But, I also realized it was something I wanted to do. It took 5 Sunday afternoons, and a trip to Florida, but I got certified! And I found it met all of my expectations (exceeded them, in fact). Now, I am working toward being an instructor! All because I took a chance.

Is that you? Have you always wanted to do something (or maybe even tried some things) to improve your marriage, but to no avail? Do you find yourself with plenty of excuses, but still dreaming of something different?

You could take the risk, and discover that the marriage you want is available to you, right now and with your current spouse. It will take some effort, and it will mean taking a risk. But, as someone who has had his life threatened, take it from me, the risk is much smaller than you imagine!

The next month is going to pass, one way or another. At the end of it, will you be able to say “I made a difference in my life, the life of my spouse, and the life of my family”? Or will the month simply pass with the same dreams and regrets?

Even if you are at the end of your rope, ready to give up, isn’t it worth one more shot? One more guided effort, one with direction and assistance?

People often find themselves in situations where they have learned to survive, to get by. Not happy, but getting by. That is not enough. You can learn to thrive.

What's Included In The Program

There are several key components to this program. Each multiplies the effect of the other. So, let's take a look at each one.

First, I have identified 8 rubrics of transforming a marriage. The rubrics build on themselves, and reinforce each other. In order to cover the rubrics, you will attend 8 teleclasses. Each teleclass will give you the ideas and information to apply each rubric to your marriage. The teleclasses last about an hour each, giving you 8 full hours of content to absorb at your leisure

Since these teleclasses were recorded as mp3’s, you have several options on how you will listen. You can listen on the computer, or you can download them to your mp3 player (including iPod’s), or you can burn a CD, and take them in the car with you. You have full flexibility. These are the actual recordings of the phone calls, so you won’t be listening to some “mastered in the studio” audio. You will get the powerful information.

Second, to reinforce what you learn in the teleclass, you can practice with daily homework. You can print off the email, and get started on the homework. Print it twice, and both of you have your own copy to work on. This homework has been "battle-tested," and has proven to be invaluable in helping people to transform their relationships. Now, it isn't like school, so no grades are given, and you can choose when or even if you will do it. But you can expect it to take anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour per day, depending on how much you decide to invest.

Third, in order to pull those two things together, there are 5 Question & Answer sessions from questions posed by participants in the original workshop. These sessions clarify points made in the teleclass or in the homework, but where people still had questions. In other words, the participants probably already had the questions you will have, and have already asked them. The answers are in these sessions.

Finally, there is a Forum for members to use. You can ask questions of me, of each other, tell your story, and tell everyone what tricks you have learned in helping your marriage. Even couples with troubles will have lots of good information and help to share with others. The forum provides a place for that. Better than that, we are all in this together. Your struggles become our struggles. We will share in your victories! Learning happens better in a community, so the forum provides a place for community.

The Forum is also the center of the course. All elements of the course are saved there. You access all homework, all recordings, and all other information at the Forum. If you choose to post or not, that is up to you, but the Forum will provide all the information 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. In fact, I have a simple message that walks you through the course. You just click my hyperlinks, and through the course you go!